Time is a crazy thing. It moves swiftly, without warning. It creates things, like gray hair & wrinkles. It gobbles up memories & can cause regret.
This week I had the privilege of attending my little sister’s Senior Night for high school basketball, [I’m unsure where time went! For starters, I can’t believe she is a senior!] I have been involved in her basketball journey since she started dribbling a basketball when she was a toddler. I was a basketball player; It has been a big part of our family, as well as gymnastics [my other sister’s passion].
My sister’s last couple basketball seasons haven’t gone favorably for her, but she continued to have a passion for the game; showing up for every summer work out, shooting and working out every day at the local Lifetime, etc… I am amazed at her dedication.
Over the course of the season, I continued to tell her to try to enjoy every minute playing a sport she loved with her friends, that it goes too fast, and to enjoy the little things. As I reflect on some of the things I advised her, I think back to myself as an 18 year old. What would have I done differently? What would I tell myself?
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Dear Kaylee,
Listen up, chump. There are a few things we need to get straight.
First off – you don’t know everything. Ask for help, listen to your parents, and be nice to your sister, [I’m talking about you, Alissa!]. People surround you with love, advice, and friendship; appreciate them.
Your shit DOES stink. You aren’t above anybody. Everybody is on their own journey, just because someone’s may be different than yours, get over yourself! Be nice, be humble, & give back.
Find yourself, first. I know you LOVE Tony, [there are many things to love], but don’t put his needs above your own – that’s what marriage is for! And that brings me to my next point – you marry him! Things will work out beautifully. So for now, explore who you are, meet new people, take risks, be silly, & have fun.
Bread and cheese are not the only two food groups. Start good, healthy, habits now. I know it may seem easy to stay at a ideal weight, have muscle definition, etc… but it won’t last forever. Take care of your body, it is the only one you have.
Don’t stop writing. Writing is a part of you; expand upon it. Take a couple writing courses at college & see where it goes. You are going to be a wonderful teacher, but there may be other opportunities for yourself pursuing your other passion.
And lastly, have a big heart. Be compassionate to others. Forgive & don’t hold grudges. Life is too short to be a snot, angry, or unhappy.
xo, Kaylee